– Discovering Perpetual Harm through Individual Counseling in Nashville

Last Updated on September 1, 2015 by Chris Roberts

LEARNING HOW OUR CURRENT PAIN IS INDICATIVE OF PAST HARM

Counseling for individuals in Nashville is a beautiful and heartbreaking experience.  As a person digs into the story of their life through the complications of their present, we begin to unveil perpetual patterns of betrayal and pain that have been consistent throughout a person’s life.  Many people enter individual counseling with the hope of disrupting old patterns, but most people are unaware of how this process happens, and are unaware of the deep hurt they have experienced in the past.  The counseling process is not for the faint of heart.  But it is ultimately the strength of the human of heart that gives each person the perseverance to stick with the process to obtain a different ending.

Through good individual counseling in Nashville, we learn that as humans we continue these patterns of past harm in order to work through them.  This is not an easy concept for most people to grasp.  Nor was it for me.  But this window into the human soul is a magnificent lens through which to understand why we perpetuate harm with ourselves.  We are not crazy.  If we continue to experience these uncomfortable feelings with other people and other places, it is for some good reason.  This good reason is what most people are unwilling to accept.  Some people avoid this acceptance by taking too much of the responsibility for their harm.  This can appear as responsibility and self-governance, but if we take too much of the blame for our repeated harm, then we are actually avoiding the possibility of seeing the good in the repetition.

Individual therapy can become a place where a person is allowed to get lost and overwhelmed by their current predicament.  Individual counseling serves to give people the freedom to become “undone” in a manner where client and therapist can work together to figure out the pieces and the larger story.  We all come into individual counseling guarded and defensive.  Even those of us committed to honesty and vulnerability.  Our guardedness and our protections also inform the counseling process of the ways in which we have been hurt.  As humans, we want to become whole and healthy.  Those are driving forces within the human spirit which cannot be quenched.  But oftentimes, the intuitive and unconscious part of ourselves won’t let us get beyond past harm, because we haven’t sufficiently worked through it.  This is a good thing!  The difficulty of this reality is that we continue to re-experience particular types of harm, because its our primal method for slowing down the interpersonal process.

There is typically little merit in rushing through the individual counseling process in Nashville, TN.  The reality of the situation is that it can’t be rushed.  Again, it’s good that it can’t be rushed.  It’s good that we can’t go beyond the harm that we’ve experienced and haven’t integrated into out lives.  This is by no means a trivialization of the pain, frustration, and harm of our current situations.  They are miserable.  What most people want to do in the face is misery is simply to make it go away.  Again, an understandable and reasonable goal.  But misery can also exist to inform us of the broken-off and discounted parts of ourselves that have been neglected and ignored for a long time.

Looking for help through the aid of a therapist in Nashville is never an easy task to undertake.   If you have never employed individual counseling, then it will be all the more difficult to begin.  Most qualified individual therapists in Nashville know and understand this complexity and uncomfortability.   And to that end, most therapists in Nashville will work to ensure your safety and comfortability in the beginning stages.