– How Individual Counseling in Nashville Addresses “When We Can’t Make Up Our Minds”

Last Updated on April 19, 2015 by Chris Roberts

HOW INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING IN NASHVILLE ADDRESSES “WHEN WE CAN’T MAKE UP OUR MIND.”

“For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” This is the law of the universe, and it is also surprisingly true in relationships. For every person that can make quick decisions, there is another person that has trouble making up their mind. It is not a character flaw to process life and emotions slower. Most people who have difficulty “making up their mind” are simply lost in a slew of options and potentialities. It is not necessarily that they are lazy or slow, it is more a matter of a bevy of options that swarm them during a moment of decision. Typically, people who take longer to make decisions are trying to be more meticulous and calculated and courteous in their responses. It’s not a character flaw; it’s simply a matter of intentionality.

Individual counseling in Nashville can help those who take longer to make decisions come to a better understanding of why they delay in moments of choice. The most important step in learning how to be more decisive is learning to be kind to the intentional nature of their dilemma. A person who takes longer to make a decision will never become better at making quick decisions by deriding themselves for their lack of quick thinking. In fact, the more pressure we put on ourselves to make a faster decision the more time we actually need to make that choice!

But for those of us who have a harder time “making up our mind,” we will always struggle with the self-deprecation that we less-then, because we can’t make decisions as quickly as our counterparts. In western society, the idea that making fast decisions the best way to deal with life is deeply engrained into our culture. If you were to ask a person that struggles with quick-decision making to identify multiple people who can make faster choices, they can come up with a list faster than you can blink your eye. Those of us who need more time to make decisions have been faced with this pressure throughout our entire lives!!

CAN INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING IN NASHVILLE CHANGE US?

Before we get to the place of change, we must first learn to embrace the good parts of ourselves that take more time to make choices. If we ever try to make changes based on an inferiority complex, the change won’t last and won’t be fully incorporated into our psyche. All of us add a unique perspective on the world and changing our way of processing life because we deem it “bad” or “wrong” won’t allow the change to become a core part of our being.

When are able to view change as vulnerability and understand the core reasons for why we want to process life differently, we are in a far better place to make lasting changes in our lives. For some of us, the difficulty in making quick decisions lies in our fear of making a “bad” or “wrong” decision. As we come to understand more of why we hesitate when options are laid before us, we can view changing our way of addressing choices as a vulnerable submission to a more whole life. For others of us, the delay in making decisions is a form of procrastination that wishes we lived in a world where decisions didn’t exist. Obviously, this wish is not based in reality, but it can still be highly informative to know why we don’t like making decisions.   For others, we believe we have deeply harmed others by our decisions, or we ourselves have been harmed by hasty decisions, and we made a vow at some point to not make decisions without careful thought and consideration.

The point about making quicker decisions is that it is not automatically better to make faster decisions. If we learn that our delay in decision making is a way of escaping some responsibility in this world, then learning to act quicker may help make us more whole people. In either case, if you notice your lack of ability to make effective decisions is hampering your life, then individual counseling in Nashville may be a great place to explore new ways for dealing with dilemmas.