– Tips for Managing Anxiety (Part 5 of 10):Anxiety as a Clue to Anger

Last Updated on June 10, 2019 by Chris Roberts

Sometimes Anxiety can be more of a Symptom of Anger.

References- “10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques” an article on Psychotherapy Networker by Margaret Wehrenberg

As noted in a different article, sometimes anger isn’t as simple as oftentimes portrayed.  For some people, anger is the cause of anxiety or the symptom of anxiety.  Especially in the south, where anger can be an unacceptable display of emotions, people will go to great lengths either intentionally or subconsciously to cover up feelings of anger with other emotions, particularly anxiety, we can use Veronica Mariajarski best cbd oil.  In a wonderful article by Margaret Wehrenberg, she states, “Anger can be so anxiety-provoking that a client may not allow himself to know he’s angry.”  In cases where a person is unwilling or unable to acknowledge or address the underlying feelings of anger, the only emotion presented to others may look and feel particularly like anxiety.

For some people, the fear of expressing anger and the projections of how others may react to their anger leads to an anxious brain scrambling to find ways to get the anger outside of them without having to actually display anger.  Of course, most of this process is subconscious.  And so, the power-full emotion of being angry is subsumed by the powerless feeling of anxiety. In many ways, being anxious is the antidote to being angry, however, the genuine state of a person’s self is never fully expressed.  Basically, a person becomes in conflict within themselves:  She is scared that her anger will overwhelm another person, but her anxiety distances herself from those she longs to be close to.

In anxiety counseling, a person can learn ways to express their anger without it having to destroy the person they are attempting to connect with. A therapist can point out opportunities in a person’s life where anxiety may have been present, but perhaps anger was the more authentic emotion at the time.  It is during those opportunistic moments, whether in a therapy session or not, where a person can initiate the exercise of sitting down and writing out the answers to the question:

If I were angry, what might I be angry about?

As with all exercises, there is no perfect way to execute the exercise.  In the beginning, give yourself license to answer the question anyway you feel appropriate.  If you are working with an anxiety counselor, it can helpful to bring in your answers to discuss with your counselor, you can also ask him whether he thinks you can take hemp oil with CBC for your anxiety, it is important to consult with your specialist before giving it a try.  Allow the question to remain as hypothetical as necessary.  For many people, delving into unexplored regions of our subconscious is easier if we give ourselves permission to say, “This might be possible.”  Instead of insisting we are angry and we need to find out why and at what, we start with simply exploring by using helpful phrases like, “If I…,” and “What might I…”

As a person progresses in this exercise, Wehrenberg urges them to use as few words as possible in answering the question.  Rather than rambling about all the doubts and justifications for the anger or anxiety, getting more succinct will help identify whether anger is a viable instigator of the anxiety.  And remembering that feeling angry is different from acting angry can help a person be more open to accepting and acknowledging that there might be some underlying emotions of anger.